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One of the most compelling and difficult to master skills of human existence is the ability to release anger, hurt and pain. Through this process humans are able to emotionally cleanse themselves and continue on with daily functions with clear thought and conscious.

In fact, society is designed to think this way. Isn’t it a fact that the convicted criminal hasn’t yet paid the due price until they are made to suffer a pain or end commensurate with the pain and suffering they inflicted on another?

Humans are possessed and controlled by pain and the avoidance of pain. We all want to be comfortable and happy. Men in particular tend to act out their hurt and pain. They will so often do this before they consider true meanings, implications, intentions or consequences and even at times direct their hurt at those they love simply because they were readily available in that moment of human need.

Our response and method of dealing with hurt or pain comes in many forms not the least of which is revenge. We get back at others for the perceived wrongs and injustices we feel have been done by them. Women like to share their feelings of hurt and pain in the effort to dilute those feelings where men have a compulsion to inflict pain right back or on another.

To properly feel pain and hurt men must develop their subjective awareness which is a feminine trait of the human and usually not a priority in being a man. There are several easy steps that help with this process that may not step on the masculinity of the person involved.

One of the most prevalent issues that seniors must deal with is the care for a partner stricken with illness and disease. The process of caring can be detrimental to the health and wellbeing of the caregiver in the long run.

It is well documented that the stress of day to day care of a loved one with a major illness weakens the immune system. Chronic stress can rob you of energy, health and the drive to carry on in daily activities.

Most of the time the decision to provide personal care stems from emotional bonds to the particular person in need or the desire to avoid excessive financial commitment. However, the caregiver must continue to function with the daily demands and schedule of a normal life with the added responsibilities of providing care and this slowly wears the person down mentally, physically and emotionally.

Soon depression starts to set in as feelings of isolation and the overwhelming burdens take their toll. Chronic stress is soon replaced with chronic sickness and finally true illness. There are several steps you can take to fight this process and stave off any ill effects.

As a teacher you have accepted the challenge and responsibility of helping a young person not only learn the basics of education, but also to find themselves as a person and productive member of society. 

Inside each human being is a unique mix of natural skills and intelligence aptitudes. Steer the developing child away from their natural skills and aptitude and you hinder them from tapping into that pool of natural potential within.  

This slows down their personal growth and may even stop them from becoming all that they could and alters their social position and path in life. 

This is a enormous responsibility. It goes far beyond the words and numbers that most people view as the teaching profession. Sitting there before you in that young body is a genuis just waiting to be recognized and released into the world. How can you learn to recognize that in every young person you meet? There are several telling signs: 

Teaching is far more than words and numbers. You stand at the forefront of developing human life and the initial phases of life direction. Your value and calling as a human has been challenged. Are you up to this challenge?

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It’s something I hear from lots of parents. Their own statements of the constant and consistent yelling at their unresponsive children. They point and gesture and literally scream till blue and yet the kids just sit there. It’s like yelling at the wall.

There is a reason these parents don’t get any response and it goes a lot further than the disrespect shown from both sides during the communication exchange.

As a child you should always respect your parents and their commitment to your wellbeing and life. As a parent you should respect your child’s thoughts and feelings as an individual and person. The way that you choose to communicate with your child has a lot to do with the quality of the response.

I have watched parents in a constant yelling process with their children. They have one volume and tone of voice and the kids learn to tune it out of their awareness. They become numb to the pattern. Try to maintain at least three distinct voice levels for effective response.

First, is the easy low request of a personal favor. My children usually respond to this out of respect and understanding of the quality of favor. They usually adopt this pattern as their own tone when requesting a favor. I make certain to look them in the eye and may even take them by the shoulder as I make the request. It is never made from across the room at an impersonal distance.

Secondly, have a normal daily communication volume and tone.
Simple everyday conversation.

Finally, have a forceful authority voice that is rarely heard. This voice defines when the children need to take notice and actually respond immediately. It is firm, abrupt and noticed instantly as something that is not to be ignored. Usually you will get that shocked ( deer in the headlights ) look and then they will jump to whatever they were requested to do, post haste.

Remember that your children are people too. Just because they may be young and you brought them into the world doesn’t mean they don’t have complex human dynamics and feelings. Treat them with a graduated design when asking them to do anything and you will probably get a better response.

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One of the things that never cease to amaze me is how one member of a couple will react to disagreement in the relationship through using their affection as a weapon against their partner. Some quiet time apart to think and cool down is one thing, but withholding love is quite another.

Once they become involved in an argument or severe disagreement one wants nothing to do with the other and that then extends beyond simply not speaking. Relationships are give and take and it is natural to have moments when you need space, but love for a partner or spouse, like your children should be unconditional.

When you withdraw your love and affection you send a real message to the other person that goes far beyond disagreement. Disagreement is a surface difference of opinion or thought. Love is a foundation emotion that has roots deep into the beliefs and needs makeup of the individual.

When you disagree or argue with someone you may bruise their feelings or ego, but the willingness and acceptance of love withdrawal as a viable method of dealing with the moment damages the relationship in a way that takes a while to get over.

Some people may never feel the same if this is your first best choice of action.

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