Yelling at the Wall
It’s something I hear from lots of parents. Their own statements of the constant and consistent yelling at their unresponsive children. They point and gesture and literally scream till blue and yet the kids just sit there. It’s like yelling at the wall.
There is a reason these parents don’t get any response and it goes a lot further than the disrespect shown from both sides during the communication exchange.
As a child you should always respect your parents and their commitment to your wellbeing and life. As a parent you should respect your child’s thoughts and feelings as an individual and person. The way that you choose to communicate with your child has a lot to do with the quality of the response.
I have watched parents in a constant yelling process with their children. They have one volume and tone of voice and the kids learn to tune it out of their awareness. They become numb to the pattern. Try to maintain at least three distinct voice levels for effective response.
First, is the easy low request of a personal favor. My children usually respond to this out of respect and understanding of the quality of favor. They usually adopt this pattern as their own tone when requesting a favor. I make certain to look them in the eye and may even take them by the shoulder as I make the request. It is never made from across the room at an impersonal distance.
Secondly, have a normal daily communication volume and tone.
Simple everyday conversation.
Finally, have a forceful authority voice that is rarely heard. This voice defines when the children need to take notice and actually respond immediately. It is firm, abrupt and noticed instantly as something that is not to be ignored. Usually you will get that shocked ( deer in the headlights ) look and then they will jump to whatever they were requested to do, post haste.
Remember that your children are people too. Just because they may be young and you brought them into the world doesn’t mean they don’t have complex human dynamics and feelings. Treat them with a graduated design when asking them to do anything and you will probably get a better response.
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