Hurting to Feel Good
One of the most compelling and difficult to master skills of human existence is the ability to release anger, hurt and pain. Through this process humans are able to emotionally cleanse themselves and continue on with daily functions with clear thought and conscious.
In fact, society is designed to think this way. Isn’t it a fact that the convicted criminal hasn’t yet paid the due price until they are made to suffer a pain or end commensurate with the pain and suffering they inflicted on another?
Humans are possessed and controlled by pain and the avoidance of pain. We all want to be comfortable and happy. Men in particular tend to act out their hurt and pain. They will so often do this before they consider true meanings, implications, intentions or consequences and even at times direct their hurt at those they love simply because they were readily available in that moment of human need.
Our response and method of dealing with hurt or pain comes in many forms not the least of which is revenge. We get back at others for the perceived wrongs and injustices we feel have been done by them. Women like to share their feelings of hurt and pain in the effort to dilute those feelings where men have a compulsion to inflict pain right back or on another.
To properly feel pain and hurt men must develop their subjective awareness which is a feminine trait of the human and usually not a priority in being a man. There are several easy steps that help with this process that may not step on the masculinity of the person involved.
- Take the time to discuss your feelings with someone close to you.
- Confide in someone who has experienced the same hurt or pain.
- Be honest, don’t ( candy coat ) the issues that bother you.
- Look for meaning in why this was so hurtful or painful.
Coping with hurt and pain doesn’t have to mean ideals of retaliation or revenge.
That is why forgiveness and rational comprehensive thought exist.
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