Speaking the Unspoken Language
There are many times in relationships when you get a totally different response or reaction out of your partner or spouse than you expected. This is in part because of a special communication that is actively going on and the unique differences of this unspoken language.
You communicate not only with your words, but also with:
Most people know this already, but what you may not realize is that this unspoken language can be as different as any foreign language is to truly understand. It’s not just a matter of gender differences, but mainly the uniqueness of each individual.
You might shrug your shoulders in several different ways to reflect your feelings and agreement within any conversation. The other person also shrugs his or her shoulders as a part of normal conversation. However, what a certain specific shrug movement means to you may not match the way the other person interprets that movement because they are using their own shrug movements and the associated meanings they have for those movements as a reference to judge and determine your intentions and meaning.
As a general rule people don’t stop to verbally analyze every facial expression or movement they make during communication. You shrug, the other person interprets what you meant by that shrug and develops within them self a feeling based on that interpretation and the conversation moves on regardless of the accuracy of that interpreted meaning.
Suddenly they respond in a way you didn’t expect because they have all of these interpretations of your unspoken communication and you are left standing there wondering why they responded like that and what just happened.
Learn to be more self-aware of your facial expressions and movements during face to face conversation. Watch for nervous habits such as:
- Tapping of fingers.
- Looking off around the room.
- Constantly looking at your watch.
- Smiles or frowns that don’t match the conversation content.
The more alert you are to those unspoken signals you are sending the more accurate your communication with others will be.
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