Comparatively Speaking
Want to get the most out of your personal daily efforts? Never compare yourself to the best that others can do, but rather to the best that you have within yourself to reach goals and milestones.
One thing I noticed with all of the top athletes in the Olympics was their intent focus on doing their best and discussing their potential, but their avoidance of discussing or even thinking about what others athletes were capable of or doing.
Successful people focus on their efforts and results. They don’t have the time or waste the mental energy on thinking about or worrying over what someone else can or might do.
That is precisely why they are successful. More of their time and energy is going into actual real world results than the people who sit around worrying about everything, but never take action to get a directed result.
You cannot and do not live the life of someone else so don’t divert your focus and attention that way.
Learn to focus on and live your own life to the fullest and you’ll be a much more successful and happy person.
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Dont Ever Do This
One of the hardest things I have ever had to do was help others with their income and financial concerns without turning their attitude. This exists because people want you to discuss them, but not yourself or others.
Never discuss or especially brag in any way about your own success with people less successful than yourself.
If you are doing well financially and in lifestyle it is natural to want to help others less fortunate. However, using your results as an example can often turn the people you are trying to help away from your message because they focus on your success versus their misfortune.
The true message of living direction and income building is lost in their preoccupation with comparing and judging their results against your examples. In fact, they may interpret your examples as boasting and that may completely turn them off to your words and message.
Temper your words by letting them know that you are in no way bragging or talking down to them whenever you use your personal results as a guideline for their future actions and results.
Once they understand that you have their best interests at heart they will listen more intently and also take your words to heart and mind.
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Beijing 2008
The one thing I enjoyed the most in events like the Olympic Games of Beijing 2008 is the collective group of high quality human excellence. Each athlete is a wonderful example of self-control and refinement.
Usain Bolt and Michael Phelps set new standards for the quality of human athletic performance.
Human excellence is out in the real world every day, but few of us get to observe it in action unless we happen to be in the right place at the right time. In Beijing there is a strong concentration of only the best in every sport. This concentration of sporting excellence is what makes world records fall and the Olympic Games interesting to watch.
Some of my past students have adopted a mindset of trying to set a new standard for personal excellence each day. They strive to be a better person from the moment their head leaves the pillow in the morning.
The results are astounding to watch as they improve family interaction, business performance and personal quality. I challenge anyone reading this post to join in and strive for a new level of personal excellence in all you do.
You will be amazed with the results.
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Children Overcome Chaos
“Opinions founded on prejudice are always sustained with the greatest violence”. People with self-serving or imbalanced views are more apt to fight to prove themselves right to the exclusion of every other belief of others around them.
The world around us is in chaos because there are those who thrive on chaos and confusion. They use imbalance as a cloak to hide the questionable points of their personal views.
Views that are more often than not founded on hidden personal agendas and desires.
This would seem easy enough to resolve, but it is all but impossible to correct those who do not desire to be corrected.
However, such imbalanced feelings and thoughts can be wiped out if we teach our children, the future generations that will inhabit this planet, to base their beliefs and desires on the good of all mankind and not just their own self-serving interests.
The process of positive change starts at home.
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The Magic of Life Webbing
How many people have you met and been friends with so far during your lifetime including the children you grew up with? Probably lots if you haven’t been a social hermit all your life.
How many are you still in active contact with? Most likely only a select few that are directly related to what you are doing right now.
Imagine how diverse your living experience would have been and how many new opportunities would have been available to you if you had only maintained fifty percent or more of your social contacts over the years.
I call this process of human interaction Life Webbing.
Look around you and you will see that people with erratic results and lots of living concerns live a very shallow lifestyle. Their social contacts are limited to a skim of family and immediate friends.
Those with wealth and a quality lifestyle have great depth in social contacts. They get invited to more events and functions and yield more social influence. They work at developing and maintaining a spider web of social interactions and cultivate ongoing friendships that last many years or even a lifetime.
The depth of your social contact list right now is probably a good indicator of your social influence and quality of living experience.
Each day focus on new fresh branches to your social contact web and be certain to REGULARLY circulate through your contacts and stay in touch.
Keep them listed alphabetically by period of contact. Some people you talk to every day and others by the week, month or on special holidays each year. The deeper and richer your web of social contacts the deeper your roots go into the substance of abundance and happiness.
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Universal Rapport
Want to have good rapport with people? The comfort of friendship and rapport simply makes it easier to connect and communicate with others. The power of personal influence is governed by this bond of rapport.
There are dozens of rapport building skills, but one that is almost universally accepted by people is the sincere compliment.
Even the total stranger feels a small bond of rapport with someone that has paid them a compliment that felt sincere. This is nothing more than a true heartfelt observation of the individual that yields a positive response.
I look for the good in each person I see and always try to compliment at least one person every day. This is especially true when I see some random act of kindness.
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Praise Loudly Criticize Softly
When other people around you especially friends and family members experience accomplishment how loudly and openly do you celebrate and praise their achievements?
When they have poor results how quickly and often do you criticize?
It is natural for the individual to focus on their own desires, goals and successes or shortcomings. However, it takes true character to turn your attention to the goals and results of others.
To grow and develop influence with other people you must focus on what is important TO THEM.
When others get good results be their first and greatest supporter and you will be remembered for a long time as a true friend and ally. Criticize too often or loudly and you will be remembered by them and seen by others as a self-centered person of poor human quality.
Remember to praise loudly and criticize softly.
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Have Some Quit With Your Whine
“It is a blessing to possess what one wishes, and a greater blessing still, not to desire what one does not possess.”
Everyone has their own specific goals, wants and desires and some will be realized while others will seem to always be just out of reach. How you think about and handle the things that don’t come your way and what you choose to do with what you do have goes a long way toward building your personal character.
Some will cry and moan while others will stomp their feet in frustration, but the person with high quality living skills accepts the current living results and constantly and consistently revises their way of thinking and actions to achieve that which seems just out of reach.
Their efforts and time are focused on the goals before them and they waste very little energy worrying or talking about what they don’t have or what might have been.
They learn from mistakes instead of dwelling on poor results and generally leave the complainers and quitters behind as they enjoy a life filled with successes, achievement and fulfillment far beyond what they ever dreamed was possible.
Everything seems so easy for them through the eyes of those that won’t make the effort required. It will always be so much easier to cry than to take action.
Cherish what you have now and set your focus and unyielding effort on desires.
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The 9th Hurdle
Perhaps one of the most unexpected and devastating results of the 2008 Olympic Games has been the stunning loss by Lolo Jones in the Women’s 100m hurdles. Just as victory seemed within her grasp she clipped a hurdle and lost her lead.
Few people other than athletes of that caliber can understand the tremendous dedication, effort and peak human performance required to be in that moment on the Olympic venue.
Countless hours of training and preparation over the years all come to the point of gold medal competition. In seconds a champion will be decided.
Suddenly it’s all gone at the 9th hurdle.
The standard of excellence Lolo Jones demands of herself was reflected more in how she handled herself off the track during interviews after this disappointment than on the track.
An Olympic level personality can handle an Olympic level defeat in public.
A few more strides and Lolo Jones would have had gold around her neck. It was not to be, but she put on a golden performance anyway even though time stopped for her at the 9th hurdle.
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Things are not Getting Better
With the controversial tiebreaker software decisions in gymnastics and the potential decisions to completely eliminate baseball and softball from the Olympic format it should be obvious that more complex is NOT better.
One of the driving patterns that I have observed over the past three decades is the human belief that more detail improves functions, patterns and decisions. Nothing could be further from the truth and we are now beginning to see this is politics, legal regulations and yes, even the Olympics.
More detail simply increases complexity and in NO way insures better function.
In fact, breaking things down into more detail usually makes the process more cumbersome and sometimes reduces the functionality to a point where the process bogs down or stops altogether because of rules and regulations.
- How fair is it to the athletes to be treated differently than in the past?
- How can you simply decide to eliminate a sport from the Olympics?
- Why is a tied score not a shared medal as in the past competitions?
- Why did athletes suffer through amateur status in the past only to have professional athletes allowed into the Olympics in recent years?
- How can records be compared if things are constantly revised in the competition format?
Mark Spitz never had a chance at 8 gold medals in 1972 because one of the events didn’t even exist when he was swimming. Michael Phelps understands and acknowledges this fact even though the venue change allowed him to establish amazing new records.
Perhaps it is time to look more at HOW the changes we make influence balance and harmony rather than blindly accepting WHAT we are attempting to accomplish as a priority and justification for every decision.
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