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It is the nightmare every parent dreads. The senseless loss of a child to abduction and murder. Unless experienced firsthand it is difficult to grasp the emotional pain and confusion the family of Sandra Cantu is going through right now.

However, other parents and people also develop feelings and often react to such news. It strikes a chord deep within the emotional center as one tries to reason why such events happen.

These feelings can sometimes be misdirected into thoughts, decisions and actions that are not called for or appropriate and may even motivate the individual to compromise their principles and values.

A young woman named Melissa Huckaby has been arrested for the abduction, rape and murder of little Sandra Cantu. Now people are misdirecting their anger toward that name and even going so far as to attack an innocent woman that happens to share that name.

This is an extremely unique case of human behavior. I was stunned to hear the news that a young woman had been arrested when generally such crimes are committed by young to middle aged men, but the new charge of rape has me speechless.

No matter how monstrous the crime it is NEVER right to attack the person. This young woman is due her day in court just like everyone else and as far as the other Melissa Huckaby’s in the world…

Really people, don’t you have something better to do?

I mean, what if they prove in court that Melissa Huckaby didn’t do it? If she did them she deserves the strongest punishment for such a crime, but give them a chance to take her to trial first before you judge and convict.

And especially before you attack.

No need to picket outside anyone’s home or slam her family or other people that happen to have the same name.

Actually, people should pay special attention to this case. The specifics of a young woman being charged with such a crime is so rare that it is vitally important parents learn a lesson from this case.

The attack on a child and especially a girl by another female is a threat that most parents would completely overlook. Your eyes are focused for a different form of criminal.

Pre-teen and teen children are generally targeted by men. Women sometimes target newborn babies, but rarely abduct children over age 6 to 8.

As a parent you must be diligent in safeguarding children from all threats. The concern is that we simply don’t see it coming. It’s the unseen evil that blindsides you from out of nowhere that’s usually calling.

I am absolutely livid with confused anger and hurt over the needless suffering and death of another child, but I for one, am not ready or willing to attack the person arrested. I’ll simply wait and see what happens during the investigation and subsequent trial if one evolves.

And I’m certainly not interested in venting at the other Melissa Huckaby’s of the world.

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Believe it or not the recent news of a woman, neighbor, friend and Sunday school teacher being arrested for the death of Sandra Cantu is a shock. What else can we expect?

I have been deflated mentally, emotionally and spiritually since the news that Sandra Cantu’s body had been found. As a father of several girls her age it really hits home especially when one becomes emotionally invested in hope for the safe return of the child.

I didn’t want to talk about, write about or even think about the terrible results that had unfolded over the past week. Then, I awoke one morning to be greeted with the news that a local neighbor, a woman and mother of a 5 year old friend had been arrested for the murder.

What? I have to admit as a person that has studied human behavior for decades and even profiled personalities my mind was almost fixed on the fact that the crime must have been committed by a man, a sexual predator of 25 to 50 years of age.

I can’t even conceive why this lady would commit such a crime. It’s so out of character and human behavioral pattern that I am waiting to hear this story.

Was it anger? Perhaps an accident she tried to cover up? Or was there something more sinister lurking in her thoughts and patterns? Something that I need to become aware of and file away in my knowledge of human thought, motivation and decision.

I don’t believe it was planned. The use of her personal luggage points that way unless she simply wasn’t aware of or thinking about being traced back to the suitcase.

This one is interesting because it opens up an entirely new can of worms. It potentially provides another profile that might exist for whatever reason that threatens our children as they go about the day innocently playing with friends.

Still it was another beautiful child lost. However, the impact on my life has not been in vain. Now, I notice my children more, watch them closer as they traverse the lawns of the neighborhood and hug them a little tighter at night.

Do you?

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By now, if you followed the case you’ve most likely seen the short eight seconds of Sandra Cantu as she skipped innocently along past a video camera. Waving her arms and enjoying the fact that she was alive.

Only minutes later she had disappeared. Gone forever from the world of the living and from her parents. Her mother will never hug her again and her family will never see her smile or hear her voice again.

The thing that struck me in the past few days as I attempted to wrap my reasoning around this event is that Sandra was totally unaware of the danger lurking just outside her world. She wasn’t aware of the 78 registered sex offenders living within a few miles of her home. 78!

And the odd thing is the danger that swooped down on her may not have even been someone we currently know about. It may have been someone she knew and trusted. It could have been someone her mother knew and trusted.

One of the first things I did a week or so ago when she went missing was tell my girls about the danger of not being aware of your surroundings and strangers or strange vehicles that might be nearby.

They were getting ready to ride their bikes over to a friend’s house only a few houses away, but my “parental danger radar” had gone into rotation and I sat them down at the kitchen table and had a short talk with them.

I felt better, but did I feel that they were safer? No, I didn’t…

Just slightly better informed.

The fact is they still have the mental development of a child. A child that has only been alive on this planet for 8 to 10 years and hasn’t had the chance to experience the ugly nature of some people. They still live in a world of trust, innocence, fun and ignorance.

This is a different world than the one that I grew up in. Where neighbors all knew one another and children could roam fairly safe except for the occasional snake or piece of glass. Where doors could be left unlocked in the daytime without fear of someone just waiting to pounce.

It is up to us as parents to educate our children about these dangers, but never forget that theirs is a mind unable to grasp the true meaning, circumstances and importance of the issues. Don’t assume that your words are enough.

Children are one of my special mentoring skills. I have spent three decades learning how they think and reason. You simply MUST reason for them. They have a very limited capacity to comprehend and safety in these issues requires comprehension.

Teens are not much better. Oh, they’re striving for more independence and have improved labeling, meaning knowledge and reasoning, but the brain and reasoning depth doesn’t truly develop until around age 25 or more.

As I see it we must address the issue of community safety from two points:

Better education and awareness of what our children, teens and young adults understand and our own awareness and involvement with the people that live in the community nearby especially those of potential danger.

We must be the eyes and minds for our children and it is time for us to do more than simply say “enough is enough”. In seminars I give people always seem so amazed when I tell them that the education of their children is not important. It is their education that holds the most value.

Until you are aware of and comprehend quality living patterns you simply cannot teach them to your children. Look at most of the violent crimes in the news. Many of them would never have happened if the people involved had been living under a better standard of values and not under poor quality circumstances.

In essence, they put themselves in the line of fire. I’m not saying that Sandra Cantu’s mother lived an improper way, I’m saying the person that committed the crime was the sum of the series of poor living quality education, values, motivations, decisions and actions.

There are times when we could look at the victim and say if only you hadn’t lived like that or frequented that location or been involved with that peer group you wouldn’t be a victim, but Sandra isn’t that person. She was an innocent child in the wrong place at the wrong time with no reasonable adult within helping distance.

Sandra Cantu was unaware of the danger. Don’t allow your children or teens to be.

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It really doesn’t matter what happened to little Sandra Cantu or where they found her what matters is THAT it happened to her and that we never forget.

I’m still emotionally hurting over the news that she had been found dead. I tell you, that took the wind out of me yesterday. It left me wondering if I even had the fortitude to continue the cause of helping people live better.

I can’t even imagine what her parents must be experiencing right now. My youngest girl is only days away from turning 8 and I know how much it would impact me if anything happened to her.

It really doesn’t matter what I accomplish or have in the living experience my children and family ARE my life.

It’s important, vital, that we not let these children or any of the others we see in the news die in vain. There is a lesson to be learned and the cost of their lives has made it a valuable lesson indeed.

The lesson is this…

It isn’t that the crime was committed, it’s that the person or persons involved HAD the thought patterns to begin with and that they accepted those thoughts and actions as reasonable enough to ALLOW the motivations to become decision and result.

It is imperative that we reach into the minds of people and our children to dissolve these forms of though patterns BEFORE they manifest into the reality of actuality. People with quality living skills don’t HAVE these murderous thought patterns and therefore the crime never happens.

A sort of pre-crime training I guess.

My job, my cause in life is helping to educate people on quality living skills. I know that people often become numb to my words when they read them over and over every day and each week.

However, these crimes serve to make my words and the need for better education, special education, come to life right before your eyes.

This is NOT an education your children will get in school. In fact, I began my development of the Human Excellence Technologies while I was in high school because I realized that these vital living skills were not a part of any curriculum and for the past three decades I have been an advocate of placing living skills training in out high schools and colleges.

So far, no result. Our students and young adults are still turned out ill prepared to absorb and deal with many of the demands people see during the living experience. That is exactly why you see teens and people make the same mistakes as those that have come before them over and over again.

So, in memory of the Caylee Anthony’s and Sandra Cantu’s, I continue my quest to reach out to people and teach them the skills they need to live a happy fulfilling life following a path toward good results.

Won’t you help me? At the very least learn the skills yourself and pass them on to your children so that they might live a better life and society can improve one child, one family at a time. The SUPEResults program contains most of the knowledge without your having to sit for hours in seminars listening to me babble.

I’m not going to put any link on this post because I don’t want to hear people claim I’m being commercial. The link is out there if you Google SUPEResults and it’s on our blog sites.

All I ask is that you consider it for the good of your children and your family. If you want personal mentoring I’m always here and willing to work with as many people as possible within my schedule.

Until then, let’s remember those little girls and not let them die in vain.

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Just a quick note to let our readers know that I was right in my thoughts about tabloid mentality.

The Casey Anthony Naked Pictures post was read 437 times more ( updated 4/8/09 ) than any other post relating to family and living quality. Why?

Hummm…

What is that telling you about the quality of the thought patterns of this society?

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Shocking details surface as the body of missing California girl does too. The search for 8 year old Sandra Cantu is finally over and the result is the same as so many cases before hers.

Why? Why am I discussing ANOTHER dead child today? Why do I spend my days espousing the virtues of developing quality living skills in people, parents and society only to have people wave their hands in my face in denial?

It’s not for me. I don’t need it. It’s not my problem. My family’s just fine. My kids don’t need it.

I hear these words every day and yet, here I am discussing another beautiful life snuffed out before it had a chance to bloom into a vibrant person.

8 years old… The same age as my youngest girl.

I cried this morning when I read the news.

I’ve spent my entire life dedicated to helping people, educating people. And I have.

The Human Excellence Technologies have helped countless people and families better themselves, yet in the past six months people have stopped learning. Stopped improving.

Now is the very time you should be reaching out to ways of improving your job and career, living skills and life. Now more than ever we need to bond and improve as a society.

Please. I am begging people to end the killing and poor living quality.

Yes, YOU…

Don’t let your children become another headline. Don’t let them grow up struggling in life when some simple information and changes could have made their life so enriched, successful and happy.

Don’t take the chance that they will grow up to hurt others like little Sandra Cantu.

Give yourself a chance to overcome the economy and give your children a chance that formal education simply won’t. They cannot and will not get living skills training in school.

Never have, never will.

Until then, I will continue to fight to save the children like Sandra Cantu and the helpless people trapped in buildings with madmen firing guns.

Please, if you do nothing educate yourself. You’ll develop better life direction and you’ll be able to pass the information on.

Try our SUPEResults program. The very first session is Living Dynamics. The very skills that most people need to resolve the confusion and chaos of living and relationship issues. Get the information once and pass the knowledge on to your children and their children.

It’s the least you can do. I beg you to try to improve and not deny the need.

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Here’s something that most people should find totally appalling. In fact, I debated with those here on even mentioning it, but it is something I feel that shows true poor moral and value judgment.

One of the concerns I have expressed over the past six months or more is the disturbing fascination the public seems to have developed with entertainment simply for shock value and the focus on tabloid news that offers little merit.

What is being lost is our focus on developing good living skills and lessons for our children, teens and young adults.

Parents are turning away from their children as they saturate themselves with violent video games, mindless meaningless television programs and social interaction that includes inhalant huffing, cell phone transmitted nude pictures and sex between teens as a game.

Today, someone sent us a request to post any nude pictures of Casey Anthony that we might have.

First, I’m not sure why they would even assume that such pictures would exist or that we would possess them and secondly, why we would ever consider posting such pictures.

My people were right! Did the title draw you to this story? WHY!!!

Why would anyone be interested in viewing naked pictures of Casey Anthony? What would be the purpose?

We have a lot of really good readers, good people, but my message seems to be lost in an ocean of SPAM, SCAMS and total idiots. The internet has become the wild wild west filled with this junk.

The average read time of a Casey Anthony story is 2 minutes and 36 seconds.

The average read time of a story on quality living and family education is 8 seconds…

Get the message? Wait… DO YOU GET IT?

There is a preoccupation with junk and trash news in this country and we are turning our back on the very standards and values that guarantee success and happiness in life. Then we wonder why people are killing each other and why the news is riddled with stories of pain and suffering.

What do YOU value in life?

If you focus is on a cell phone, lottery tickets, chrome wheels or getting ahead of everyone else by stepping on or over people to the exclusion of improving yourself as a person and having a positive impact on the lives of others…

YOU DON’T GET IT…

And you never ever will be a success in life, period.

By now the very people I’m referring to have already clicked away in search of the next trash tabloid story in their never-ending quest for sensational satisfaction.

I can only hope, pray, that there are some people some parents out there listening to these words and not clicking off into the ocean of useless junk.

I know there are good people out there and I continue to reach out to them.

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Why is Casey Anthony so mad and what is she mad at? You should know. She’s upset with the same thing that thousands, millions of people get upset with everyday.

Recently, I was asked about the apparent bitterness that seems to spill out of Casey Anthony in her jail conversations with her parents. Want to know why she’s bitter?

Because life isn’t giving her what she wants. The living experience isn’t conforming to her view of what it SHOULD be. And she’s not alone.

Every day I talk to people that have the very same outlook on life. They expect the world around them to fit their self-serving needs and desires.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t. There was never a lesson in school that told you it would. Your parents were incorrect if they told you it would.

Casey Anthony’s living experience is the sum of her decisions and actions. Something that she is unable and unwilling to accept just like the multitudes of unhappy people that go through each day grumbling about how unfair life is and how the world is mistreating them.

Casey must now face the results of her decisions. She must pay the price for playing the game of self-centered decision.

Want to change your results? Ok…

I’ve committed $50,000 of my own money to help teach people a better way. I’ve put my money where my mouth is and stepped up like other corporate leaders should to help make people, society and this world a better place.

Don’t like that idea? Am I being commercial? Bull!

I for one actually care about others.

What have others done lately? Are they willing to give up their vacations, their time and money to help others? Didn’t think so…

If Casey Anthony had been mentored beforehand, little Caylee would most likely be alive today.

If only someone else had taken the time and interest.

Want to learn how to live better? Then learn to live smarter.

Put down the cell phones, tabloids, IPODs and MP3 players. Turn off your shiny vehicle with the chrome wheels and turn off the boob tube. Educate yourself and your children in a better pattern of living before your family becomes another statistic on the evening news.

Yes, I’m still watching the death toll mount everyday as families self-destruct and confused individuals under self-imposed stress go about their business shooting people by the dozens.

Casey Anthony isn’t a remote case. Teach your children the patterns of proper living before it’s too late. Oh, and by the way…

Don’t wait or even expect the school systems to teach Human Excellence Technologies because they don’t. Not one school in this country does. That is exactly why I devoted more than 30 years of my life to human behavioral research and the advocacy of living skills programs in our schools.

Casey Anthony really expected the world to conform to her desires. Unfortunately, Caylee got in the way.

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Times are as tough on people as I have ever seen and it is imperative that we all do as much as we can to help. So, I’m putting my money where my mouth is and offering $2000.

My family and I usually take two or three nice vacations each year depending on school schedules since our children have weekly school and special language school on Saturdays.

This year we are going to give up our vacations to help others in need.

It’s hard for my two small children to understand that they won’t be visiting Mickey Mouse or swimming with dolphins this year, but I simply cannot in good conscience sit on a beach or by a pool at some resort spending thousands of dollars while other families are unable to pay their bills or may even be losing their home.

Effective immediately this morning, I will be personally paying out a $2000 scholarship for each person or family that signs up to the Certified Private Life Mentor educational program.

I have already received approval from the Directors and have committed my vacation funds and time to the effort.

This is limited to the first twenty five ( 25 ) applicants that qualify under the scholarship program. When the $50,000 of funds run out the offer is over.

I invite those interested in the scholarships to visit the Certified Private Life Mentor ( CPLM ) web site and review the details of the program and the business it provides. After graduation you will have a personal professional business able to provide your family with an annual income of $60,000 on average.

If you are not interested in the program, but know a family that will benefit simply past this information along to them.

Once you have reviewed the CPLM web site email me at lifehelp@cstone.net and explain your circumstances.

I will see to it that you are provided with a link that will allow you to apply and if accepted into the program I will also provide you with a special code for the scholarship funds.

This is the least I can do and the most I can do to help.

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Will Casey Anthony be convicted of murder? If she is it will be a tragedy. Not only will her parents lose a grandchild, but they will also lose a daughter. Do they deserve this?

Not really, but it is the end result of Casey’s poor living skills and decisions.

The tragedy is that this entire ordeal could have been avoided. Beautiful little Caylee didn’t have to die and Casey shouldn’t be in jail right now. Instead she should be at home with her parents enjoying the wondrous living experience at 23 years old.

If only someone could have reached out to Casey before she made these dreadful decisions, but she like so many people simply went about the living process unaware that there is a better way.

We would have educated Casey on the essence of quality living skills and values. Our programs would have helped teach her how to live a fulfilling life without the demons of self-absorbed thought patterns. However, she like so many that need help right now slipped through the cracks of reason and society turned a blind eye until it was far too late.

What’s your excuse? Over the past year I have dedicated my time and money to develop programs to help people improve their job, career, family relationships and living process. Yet, we reach an average of only 2 people in 1000.

In a time when the economy, violent behavior and social chaos is at an all time high we reach fewer people than ever before. Casey Anthony is NOT an isolated event. Murder and abduction are sprawled across the news headlines everyday and still people deny the need for quality human living skills educational programs.

I took on this challenge because I see all people as my extended family. You are family to me, especially if you have been kind enough to give me time from your busy schedule to read my words.

Folks, I for one have empathy and compassion. Yes, I know those seem to be dying qualities in society today, but I still hold to the principle that we should support our neighbors and people in general.

It is especially painful for me to see families lose their children when help is available. I know how devastating it would be if something happened to my children. So, to that end I dedicated my time and money to help the potential Casey Anthonys of this country.

I can’t fix everyone, but I can make a difference one person, one family at a time.

However, if people simply won’t listen, if they continue to turn away with disregard for our programs I will shut the systems down. It is not fair to expect me to spend more each month than most people make in six months just to maintain educational programs that people basically ignore.

In fact, whenever I even mention our educational programs on my blogs there are always a few people who chastise me as being commercial. Ok, how else do you propose we approach people and let them know that these programs exist?

How do I reach the future Casey Anthonys of the world or the families I so dearly want to help if I am to remain totally silent? If I don’t make the effort I am callous and unfeeling and if I do I am branded as a commercial sellout hawking my programs like a street vendor.

Where is the balance? When will I see people take interest in our programs as I have taken interest in them?

Is it fair to expect me to give and give and yet receive little interest in return? I employ people just like you. People with families that need the job and income. I give to charities that help those that cannot help themselves. I go without so that others may have.

It would be so easy for me to have denied any accountability. To live a comfortable life with all the trappings of success on some beach somewhere ignoring the plight of others, but what kind of character would that define in me?

I was absolutely certain and even preached to my staff that the people of this country would recognize those that reach out to help others and that word of our programs would spread through these good people across the internet. Finally, we would be able to reach those in dire need and stop some of the Caylee Anthonys from being abducted, abused or winding up in a trash bag.

However, that hasn’t happened. Instead, most ignore our efforts or attack us for caring.

I stood behind the people in need after hurricane Ike. I used my influence to help the Chinese families that sadly lost their children in a terrible traffic accident from Urbana College in Ohio and I have always given to friends and family in need.

I still believe in the good within people. I still believe that was the foundation that made America the best country when I was a child and it was the lesson taught by my father. I, for one would have given anything I have down to the last penny if I could have only reached Casey Anthony before she made those poor decisions.

I want to see a day when there are NO Caylee or Haleigh events. When murder, rape, abduction, family suicides and street violence go away. When my neighborhood children can play safe and sound without fear. When people have jobs and the happiness and fulfillment they deserve.

To that end I continue.

Perhaps it would be better if I simply handed out money to those in need and watched them spend it foolishly on entertainment and lifestyle excess.

No, I believe in people. I believe in you.

What do you believe in?

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