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I write a lot of articles and entries regarding the conditions of the human and the concepts of improvement, but not as much about the coaching process. It seems to some that any mention of vocation is commercial and a sell out to giving endless streams of free information on the internet.

However, how people think about coaching directly affects the impact and quality of the coaching process. Teaching is useless unless one can reach the students most in need. Those are the very students most likely to refuse study.

One of the things that bothers me the most is the difficulty we as professional coaches have in reaching the very people that need us the most. One of the primary symptoms of poor living direction is that the person refuses to admit the need for or accept the help of anyone else especially a coach or mentor.

So, I went to the people to ask questions and find out why. More than just a business tool the use of coaching and mentoring to develop stability, direction and measurable progress is an accepted and even required concept in some of the most diverse fields from sports to medicine.

Generally individuals in management or creative fields accept the need and importance of coaching very easily, but the “average” person in the core consumer market struggles along on their own randomly facing down the challenges that the living experience throws their way.

First, I identified individuals and families that had adopted the “struggling on their own” patterns and then I asked them specific questions on support and coaching such as:

Have you ever had a mentor or coach?

If so or if not, why?

What is your view on coaching or mentoring?

Here are the results.

None of these people had ever had a coach or mentor. There were a few family members offering advice, but they had never been formally coached for free or otherwise. The concept of coaching and mentoring was almost foreign to them.

Few of these people understood the benefits potential of having someone else for support. They couldn’t understand how another person was going to help them elevate their results or lifestyle.

They had been making a living on their own since high school. They had always done things on their own and didn’t see any reason to change that pattern.

Coaching was something for other people. People involved in special things like sports and movies far above anything these people saw as remotely in their future. They simply didn’t need it and probably couldn’t afford it.

Their two major response patterns were:

Even though almost every person was unhappy with current social position, career, lifestyle, or living results the response was… “I’ve done alright up to this point. I don’t see any reason to change.”

Even though most admitted being stuck, confused and not knowing what to do next or where to turn the response was… “I don’t see what someone else can do for me. It’s just something else for me to worry about.”

These two statements are the answers to questions regarding the success of some and the defeat of others. Learn them well and look for them within yourself. Look deeply and I’m certain you will find some of these feelings lurking in the shadows.

I don’t see any reason to change.

I don’t see what someone else can do for me.

On top of all that most of these people admitted that anything added to their living experience automatically became a worry even before results were had.

These are the common denominators between success and struggle. Like it or not, commercial or otherwise I just told you the truth. Sports teams, athletes and performers have specialized coaches for a reason. Executives, highly educated and paid executives, have coaches and mentors to bring out their best.

These people recognize and accept the need for change and support. This is a hurdle you must overcome long before you begin to restructure your living patterns and results. Our biggest struggle is reaching out to the people who simply won’t accept help.

How much value would my words have if I wasn’t willing to take my own advice? This past year I paid a mentor to work with me on one aspect of my business.

Was it worth the cost? Absolutely. The direction and knowledge more than made up for any expense. In fact, I have always gotten great value out of good advice and skill sets and I’ve had many valuable coaches and mentors.

Take a good look at the top paid executives, sports athletes and celebrities and you’ll be hard pressed to find any that haven’t used or currently have a coach or mentor in some form. Look closely at the people and families struggling along and you’ll see no coaching at all.

It’s not the end all answer, but it’s the truth.

The difference? Change and support.

If you don’t want a coach then find someone that exhibits quality living skills and ask them for a little mentoring. You never know sometimes a good teacher is only a request away.

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It really doesn’t matter what happened to little Sandra Cantu or where they found her what matters is THAT it happened to her and that we never forget.

I’m still emotionally hurting over the news that she had been found dead. I tell you, that took the wind out of me yesterday. It left me wondering if I even had the fortitude to continue the cause of helping people live better.

I can’t even imagine what her parents must be experiencing right now. My youngest girl is only days away from turning 8 and I know how much it would impact me if anything happened to her.

It really doesn’t matter what I accomplish or have in the living experience my children and family ARE my life.

It’s important, vital, that we not let these children or any of the others we see in the news die in vain. There is a lesson to be learned and the cost of their lives has made it a valuable lesson indeed.

The lesson is this…

It isn’t that the crime was committed, it’s that the person or persons involved HAD the thought patterns to begin with and that they accepted those thoughts and actions as reasonable enough to ALLOW the motivations to become decision and result.

It is imperative that we reach into the minds of people and our children to dissolve these forms of though patterns BEFORE they manifest into the reality of actuality. People with quality living skills don’t HAVE these murderous thought patterns and therefore the crime never happens.

A sort of pre-crime training I guess.

My job, my cause in life is helping to educate people on quality living skills. I know that people often become numb to my words when they read them over and over every day and each week.

However, these crimes serve to make my words and the need for better education, special education, come to life right before your eyes.

This is NOT an education your children will get in school. In fact, I began my development of the Human Excellence Technologies while I was in high school because I realized that these vital living skills were not a part of any curriculum and for the past three decades I have been an advocate of placing living skills training in out high schools and colleges.

So far, no result. Our students and young adults are still turned out ill prepared to absorb and deal with many of the demands people see during the living experience. That is exactly why you see teens and people make the same mistakes as those that have come before them over and over again.

So, in memory of the Caylee Anthony’s and Sandra Cantu’s, I continue my quest to reach out to people and teach them the skills they need to live a happy fulfilling life following a path toward good results.

Won’t you help me? At the very least learn the skills yourself and pass them on to your children so that they might live a better life and society can improve one child, one family at a time. The SUPEResults program contains most of the knowledge without your having to sit for hours in seminars listening to me babble.

I’m not going to put any link on this post because I don’t want to hear people claim I’m being commercial. The link is out there if you Google SUPEResults and it’s on our blog sites.

All I ask is that you consider it for the good of your children and your family. If you want personal mentoring I’m always here and willing to work with as many people as possible within my schedule.

Until then, let’s remember those little girls and not let them die in vain.

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Over 2.6 million jobs were lost in 2008. During 2009 and beyond as business evolves from the economic change new industry will emerge and new jobs will be created.

The process of company restructure is cyclic especially when linked to economic downturn. During this process we all must suffer some and wait for the global markets to stabilize.

Think of the job market like real estate. Right now is a buyer’s market. The downturn in the economy has created a market for those with the money to capitalize on the low housing prices. Likewise, those with the ability to be at the job forefront right now will lead those getting back in during the future economic industry growth.

We must also keep a close eye on the financial markets as they settle from rampant spending and bailouts. Once companies stabilize there will be a rebirth of new industry to stimulate the economy.

During the rebuilding process new industry will signal the relief for many of the unemployed that cannot find income sources right now. Families that will need help in redesigning their living skills and career paths.

There are many who need professional direction right now to help them secure their family unity and financial position as they wait out the economic storm.

If you are in the unique position to help others during the downturn and rebuilding periods your business will thrive and grow too. It is important to realize that business and income are always available in the economy. You simply need to know where to look and have the proper skills to access and benefit from the demands and needs of the general population.

The most important factor is sincere help. If you are truly willing and are sincere in your efforts to help other people the benefit comes back to you many times over.

That is exactly why businesses that support the wellbeing of people flourish with success while the people out to make a quick dollar at someone else’s expense continue to struggle each day.

Position yourself to actually make a difference to help others and the rewards will come to you over time.

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The economy hasn’t been very kind to some this year. Even though we can’t change the economy we don’t have to lie down and give up. In an effort to help others prosper we are offering job training.

The Human Life Map is due for release in 2009. Part of that release is the one-on-one private education of a limited number of select people to be Certified Private Life Mentors.

The 12 month educational program will allow certified mentors to establish their own business with the CPLM designation and client base that should provide a $50,000 to $70,000 per year income depending on your desire for hourly commitment per week.

This allows us to spread the living skills of the Living Dynamics and The Human Life Map educational programs as well as other Human Excellence Technologies to the public through qualified educators.

CPLM trainees will find that the program will also completely change their life and the lives of their children through the knowledge and living skills they will gain.

If you are a high school graduate with the will to succeed and the desire to operate your own business working with other people this is an excellent opportunity to establish a long-term career without fear of layoff or downsizing.

This program is limited by state geographic location and number of CPLM positions available.

Interested parties may contact us through this email: lifehelp@lightos.com

Be sure to tell us your state location and a valid email address that we may contact you with. Positions are subject to our Human Resources review and selection process.

Advanced offline / online business and marketing skills will also be provided to each participant as part of the training process.

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One of the natural rules of the human is that you must exercise muscles in order to be stronger by the day and the human mind is no different. Living growth occurs by pushing the limits of comforth and ability.

There are those that simply stop growing mentally at a very young age. Formal education forced them to stretch their mind, but without that organized learning effort these people settle into a daily routine of doing and thinking only enough to just get by.

Decisions become choice between what to eat and which television show, lottery ticket or other mundane living function is most important at that moment.

Make it your personal pattern each day to:

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The generous should be rich, and the rich should be generous.
Wealth is more than money, it is a pattern of living with quality and the quality of result one gets from living a higher standard of excellence.

One of the traits I notice most often from the people I meet that are at once the subject of celebrity and social influence is a natural need to help people and give from the heart.

The people who follow a self-centered path and keep their spoils for self often fade away as a forgotten shell of what they once were. Their celebrity status and influence stripped away long before by their attitude to others.

I just returned from a trip to a beach resort today. One of the things I am sure to do is tip well. I tip the maid service each day for cleaning my room and I tip the Bellman well for any help or advice.

If you don’t forget the people who lend a hand they won’t forget you.

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In the course of human development every great achievement was once considered impossible. Until someone succeeded in completing that task.

Often when I am addressing a group of people there is a moment when the room echoes with statements of “That’s too hard”, “I can’t do it” and “I just don’t have the time”.

Those I immediately look for are the people who put their head down and silently smile without saying a word. Those are the people who recognize these excuses as the tired old worn out misdirection’s of others as they try to divert attention away from their lack of commitment, focus and effort.

The “silent smilers” as I call them are the people who go out and find a way to do the impossible.

Then the people once full of excuses stare in amazement as they wonder how the achievers ever got those positive results. They are as clueless to the why as they were to the how.

If you even utter an excuse you far into the abyss of effortless stagnation. Train yourself to always look for the way to achieve ANY goal that you set no matter how impossible it may seem right now.

Soon you will be basking in the light of success while others wonder why and how you did it.

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Want to have good rapport with people? The comfort of friendship and rapport simply makes it easier to connect and communicate with others. The power of personal influence is governed by this bond of rapport.

There are dozens of rapport building skills, but one that is almost universally accepted by people is the sincere compliment.

Even the total stranger feels a small bond of rapport with someone that has paid them a compliment that felt sincere. This is nothing more than a true heartfelt observation of the individual that yields a positive response.

I look for the good in each person I see and always try to compliment at least one person every day. This is especially true when I see some random act of kindness.

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When other people around you especially friends and family members experience accomplishment how loudly and openly do you celebrate and praise their achievements?

When they have poor results how quickly and often do you criticize?

It is natural for the individual to focus on their own desires, goals and successes or shortcomings. However, it takes true character to turn your attention to the goals and results of others.

To grow and develop influence with other people you must focus on what is important TO THEM.

When others get good results be their first and greatest supporter and you will be remembered for a long time as a true friend and ally. Criticize too often or loudly and you will be remembered by them and seen by others as a self-centered person of poor human quality.

Remember to praise loudly and criticize softly.

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Perhaps one of the most unexpected and devastating results of the 2008 Olympic Games has been the stunning loss by Lolo Jones in the Women’s 100m hurdles. Just as victory seemed within her grasp she clipped a hurdle and lost her lead.

Few people other than athletes of that caliber can understand the tremendous dedication, effort and peak human performance required to be in that moment on the Olympic venue.

Countless hours of training and preparation over the years all come to the point of gold medal competition. In seconds a champion will be decided.

Suddenly it’s all gone at the 9th hurdle.

The standard of excellence Lolo Jones demands of herself was reflected more in how she handled herself off the track during interviews after this disappointment than on the track.

An Olympic level personality can handle an Olympic level defeat in public.

A few more strides and Lolo Jones would have had gold around her neck. It was not to be, but she put on a golden performance anyway even though time stopped for her at the 9th hurdle.

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