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One of the hardest things I have ever had to do was help others with their income and financial concerns without turning their attitude. This exists because people want you to discuss them, but not yourself or others.

Never discuss or especially brag in any way about your own success with people less successful than yourself.

If you are doing well financially and in lifestyle it is natural to want to help others less fortunate. However, using your results as an example can often turn the people you are trying to help away from your message because they focus on your success versus their misfortune.

The true message of living direction and income building is lost in their preoccupation with comparing and judging their results against your examples. In fact, they may interpret your examples as boasting and that may completely turn them off to your words and message.

Temper your words by letting them know that you are in no way bragging or talking down to them whenever you use your personal results as a guideline for their future actions and results.

Once they understand that you have their best interests at heart they will listen more intently and also take your words to heart and mind.

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Today I saw Whoopi Goldberg make an interesting reference to a word so dangerous to young people, in fact all people, that it can change the course of an entire life.

That word is Stupid.

Young children believe in the words of adults. They are supposed to. This how they learn and get their words of guidance.

When an adult tells any young child or teen that they are stupid there is a chance that the young person hasn’t developed the reasoning to grasp the use of that word enough to realize that is not a TRUE reflection of who and what they are.

They truly believe they are stupid and this may inhibit their motivation and ambition for personal effort and growth. Plus each child will have their own view of what the word stupid means, a childlike view that may be much more than what the adult realized or meant.

In essence, be very careful of the words you choose to use and how you say them to people especially young people.

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Just a quick moment of special thanks to the many teachers who stop by to read The Human Life Map Blogcast. It seems like I deal with so many of the demands of life that teachers don’t get their fair share.

Here are some great tips for teachers.

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Each and every one of us has personal likes and dislikes. There are those that are good with their mind and others that excel with their hands.

Children are extremely sensitive to their desires and natural traits.

Here are 10 ways to engage students into learning with more vigor and enthusiasm.

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Reading is a foundation skill that is the basis for language usage and communication between people. You will continue learn throughout your life, but early childhood years are very important for developing literacy.

Fully 75% of all children who lack reading skills until the age of nine will continue to have difficulty with their reading through high school.

It is vital that adults help children with phonics, fluency and comprehension at an early age. In fact, 80% of the children identified as having learning disabilities have their major challenge in reading and comprehension.

Help children develop good reading habits. Have a scheduled reading time before bed and encourage their reading efforts. Teach children to learn about the world by reading from the encyclopedia or other books of general world knowledge.

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It is important that children understand that learning is an ongoing process and that it doesn’t have to be a chore, it can be fun. Formal schooling is only one basic step of learning.

Every experience in daily life offers a new opportunity to learn and improve.

So many young people truly believe that the process of learning is finite and ends once they leave or graduate from school. They shut their brains down and assume that they know everything they need to know in order to live a fulfilling life.

Then life comes back to bite them with the reality of responsibility and the need for knowledge and personal growth.

Teach young children early on to have a mindset of constantly learning during daily functions. Make learning a fun process especially for very young children. If children associate any pain to the learning process they will carry that thought into adulthood.

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During my travels I get a lot of questions that deal with children and methods of behavorial modification. Especially the questions that relate to children in the family listening and responding to requests from parents.
Most of these questions fall under eight areas of natural difference.

Children, especially under the age of ten must be interacted with in a manner that is unique to any other interpersonal communication in adult living. Adults MUST shift down to their level to some degree in order to be effective at all. These eight critical areas are:

Adults have a detailed organized view of quality.
Children have a simple good enough acceptance.

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As a teacher you have accepted the challenge and responsibility of helping a young person not only learn the basics of education, but also to find themselves as a person and productive member of society. 

Inside each human being is a unique mix of natural skills and intelligence aptitudes. Steer the developing child away from their natural skills and aptitude and you hinder them from tapping into that pool of natural potential within.  

This slows down their personal growth and may even stop them from becoming all that they could and alters their social position and path in life. 

This is a enormous responsibility. It goes far beyond the words and numbers that most people view as the teaching profession. Sitting there before you in that young body is a genuis just waiting to be recognized and released into the world. How can you learn to recognize that in every young person you meet? There are several telling signs: 

Teaching is far more than words and numbers. You stand at the forefront of developing human life and the initial phases of life direction. Your value and calling as a human has been challenged. Are you up to this challenge?

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It’s something I hear from lots of parents. Their own statements of the constant and consistent yelling at their unresponsive children. They point and gesture and literally scream till blue and yet the kids just sit there. It’s like yelling at the wall.

There is a reason these parents don’t get any response and it goes a lot further than the disrespect shown from both sides during the communication exchange.

As a child you should always respect your parents and their commitment to your wellbeing and life. As a parent you should respect your child’s thoughts and feelings as an individual and person. The way that you choose to communicate with your child has a lot to do with the quality of the response.

I have watched parents in a constant yelling process with their children. They have one volume and tone of voice and the kids learn to tune it out of their awareness. They become numb to the pattern. Try to maintain at least three distinct voice levels for effective response.

First, is the easy low request of a personal favor. My children usually respond to this out of respect and understanding of the quality of favor. They usually adopt this pattern as their own tone when requesting a favor. I make certain to look them in the eye and may even take them by the shoulder as I make the request. It is never made from across the room at an impersonal distance.

Secondly, have a normal daily communication volume and tone.
Simple everyday conversation.

Finally, have a forceful authority voice that is rarely heard. This voice defines when the children need to take notice and actually respond immediately. It is firm, abrupt and noticed instantly as something that is not to be ignored. Usually you will get that shocked ( deer in the headlights ) look and then they will jump to whatever they were requested to do, post haste.

Remember that your children are people too. Just because they may be young and you brought them into the world doesn’t mean they don’t have complex human dynamics and feelings. Treat them with a graduated design when asking them to do anything and you will probably get a better response.

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